This paper illustrates the importance of embodied safety while stabilizing clients with complex trauma, using theory, methods and a case example. The embodied, enactive, psychotherapeutic relationship is foundational to this, which means that we as therapists need to cultivate our therapeutic presence and be connected to our own bodily experiences. By developing our own attention skills and somatic resources, we are able to both model and teach these skills to our clients. This can help them to gradually re-calibrate their own dysregulated autonomic nervous system to a more regulated one. Somatic resources such as grounding, breath and movement are described in this paper. The use of somatic resources is illustrated through a clinical case example and the implications for improved treatment are discussed.